tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3124039530615681572.post328570716925027493..comments2023-04-04T04:28:54.053-07:00Comments on Whose Life Am I Living Anyway?: ChangesRosaliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10634419780979239034noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3124039530615681572.post-26531507775901532862009-03-19T14:38:00.000-07:002009-03-19T14:38:00.000-07:00Rosalia, I just wanted to say that I found your bl...Rosalia, I just wanted to say that I found your blog this afternoon and have chill bumps about how similar our lives have been. A dry alcoholic who wouldn't work, yelled at the kids, had tantrums when we weren't trying to provoke them at all, stewed in self-pity, insisted on being the victim, stayed stuck....<BR/><BR/>I filed for divorce last week. I couldn't take it anymore. I had just posted on my blog about how alone I felt, and now that I've found your blog, I don't feel as alone anymore. I haven't been able to catch up on all of your posts, but our 2008s were eerily similar.<BR/><BR/>The irony of my filing for divorce is that since my dry alcoholic husband is the "stay-at-home parent" I'll probably have to pay him child support.<BR/><BR/>I hate this disease and I hate that I let myself be vulnerable to it without realizing what was going on.<BR/><BR/>AllisonAllisonRhodeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03442704879664039639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3124039530615681572.post-83072442787130036832009-03-16T11:24:00.000-07:002009-03-16T11:24:00.000-07:00It's now Monday afternoon and I hope that your day...It's now Monday afternoon and I hope that your day yesterday improved. <BR/><BR/>I don't know anything about alcoholism or drug addiction, but I do know about lonliness. <BR/><BR/>The best way out is to start down the road of deciding what makes "you" happy, and how much of that includes him? Do you want him? Could he be a piece that fits into your puzzle or was he thrown in by mistake?<BR/><BR/>I've been down this road, seperate rooms, seperate sides of the bed, not for months, but years. <BR/><BR/>Try the journey of communication together, work through the pot holes and speed bumps, see where you end up.<BR/><BR/>It may be worth it.<BR/><BR/>BIG hug and smiles,suzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12903090616782855058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3124039530615681572.post-21395978377528518712009-03-16T11:02:00.000-07:002009-03-16T11:02:00.000-07:00I hope that you had a good day. Many alcoholics su...I hope that you had a good day. Many alcoholics suffer from other illnesses such as bipolar disease or depression. Once I saw alcoholism as a disease,I had more compassion for my wife.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3124039530615681572.post-4149490910575640502009-03-16T08:50:00.000-07:002009-03-16T08:50:00.000-07:00I think I know what you mean. My husband has a dif...I think I know what you mean. My husband has a difficult time being positive when its not all about him - all weekend its was complaint after compalint and it has a way of sucking the life out of me - I told him how it made me feel - he came up with excuses - and still persisted in his behavior... I think he is unaware how to change it or perhpas he is some days as miserable around me as I am around him...Wait. What?https://www.blogger.com/profile/16914656489970904052noreply@blogger.com